Bridesmaids, guests, and etiquette

I'm getting ready for my friend's wedding in Philadelphia this weekend.
We've been chatting about both of our weddings a lot lately.
One thing we definitely agree on is how obnoxious people are about weddings.
Bridezillas aside, sometimes we just want to scream at everyone else.
So, I decided to dedicate a post to all the things we're dealing with...
and as a FYI to all you wedding-goers or bridal parties.

1. Don't assume you're invited just because you know me.
Events have budgets and that means, Tom, Dick, Harry, and your mom aren't invited.
Wait until you get an actual Save The Date or invitation before you plan on coming.
You know what happens when you "assume..."

2. Along with #1 it is also inappropriate to invite extra guests.No I don't want my family's friends coming to our wedding.
I haven't seen them in 5+ years, so why invite them now?
If we had to cut down our friend list we obviously don't want your friends there.
Unless your invite says, "and guest" or they receive their own, Don't Bring Them.

3. Weddings are carefully planned events.
Being invited is a privilege.
Being in the bridal party is an honor.
The wedding is about the Bride & Groom, not you.

4. BridesmaidsAgain, this is not your day.
You were chosen to help the bride...
whether that is to help her remain calm, grab last minute items, or help her put on that gown.
Don't give her unnecessary stress.
These last few months have been grueling for the bride and whining about petty things is dumb.

5. Don't take it personally if it is to be a child-free event.As in NO kids, NO exceptions unless they are in the womb.
Sometimes people just want a relaxing time for their guests.
This also makes it a lot easier on the bartender.
And who wants to hear screaming during their vows anyway?

6. We will have kids when we are ready.
You will know when we are going to begin that milestone.
No need to keep asking :)

7. We have wedding websites for a reason.
All the information is there.
Registry, accommodations, travel info, etc.

8. We will not be having menus to coordinate everyone's needs.Expecting to have specific food items are each person are unreasonable.
If you have allergies or don't like something then don't take it.
Simple.

9. RSVP cards are important.We need to know who will be joining us.
Final counts are very important.
A phone call or mentioning it doesn't count.
You must return that little card & envelope.

10. Out of town weddings are like mini-vacations.Make the best of your trip.
If you have free time, go explore the city.
Seeing friends is a bonus that comes with being there for the Big Day.

So, in a nutshell those are some of the things that Sara & I have been dealing with lately.
I'm not trying to start shit or call anyone out.
I just need to vent and make these things known.
Sometimes guests forget that it isn't all about them.
Sure we want you to have a great time, but the point of this was to celebrate the nuptials.

Leave your honest comments.
I'm a big girl and can take what you have to throw at me.
XOXO,
Allie